laughs at ppl who always respond to “[x] has been abusive in x y z ways” with “wait ??? isn’t other person ALSO an abuser ??? you have to talk about every single abusive character for your opinion to be valid”
also like people who argue (particularly on tvd) “well, pretty much EVERY vampire is a rapist, so um, really.”
except the only canonical rapists we have are damon and katherine (and to an extent you could argue for isobel and stefan, though we’ve never seen it the way we have with damon and katherine - they are still both horrendous abusers, esp stefan with his abuse of women after he turned it off in 1864 blah blah. it’s very likely that he raped the same women but there’s no outright proof)
caroline’s not a rapist. elijah and rebekah and klaus aren’t even fucking rapists (as far as we know in canon!!!). elena’s not a rapist. none of them have used their compulsion to turn off people’s fear in order to have sex with them, which, you know. rape.
stop implying that rape as a crime is less important because “every character does it” or “it’s vampire nature” bc you might not mean to be, but you’re a rape apologist and it’s gross